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Ok so speaking as a "professional wedding photographer" (Just in case you were fooled by the Jurassic Park t-shirts and constant Zombie chat) I hate when people shoot over my shoulder with their iphones. I hate Uncle Bob and his semi-pro DSLR set up and his pals getting in my way with their ipad screens. It does however make my dentist very happy as I have been known to grind my teeth in anger; so badly my fillings come loose. Don't get me wrong - that irritation is from when people who do do that do so at the "pivotal" moments. For the most part everyone is very respectful of the couples wishes and the photographers and I want guests and couples to have as many quality memories as possible.
The first big DO that I have to condone when it comes to weddings when it comes to phones and ipads etc is......
### DON'T FORGET - SORT YOUR WEDDING HASHTAG! ####
Yes you may feel like a proper millennial cliche but cliches can be comforting - like a pair of old slippers or a nice hot mug tea - but seriously if you're gonna wait anywhere from 4-12 weeks for your photos it will be really nice to relive the day and night of your big day before you get the professional photos back. Having a wedding is a huge emotional high and reliving that even in some small way you are getting your monies worth to be sure to be sure.
Everyone has fancied themselves a DJ at some point. If you've already sorted an act or a DJ but they finish too early.....
@@@DO HAVE AN OPEN MIC DJ SET@@@
If you've got a half decent laptop and some amps then why not let your guests take turns knocking out some banging tunes! I've seen so many weddings now that ended this way and they were all mental but all seriously good fun. Or you could just hire DJ Acid Reflux and The Spicy Chuffs
Things you can do differently.....After all hindsight is a beautiful thing. My incredible wife and I loved our wedding as it gave us the opportunity to bring 200 odd family and friends together for a right barn-stormer of a wedding. We regretted nothing.......
&&&CAN'T ORGANISE SH!T??? DO GET SH!T ORGANISED FOR YOU!&&&
The organisational bits and bobs in the year preceding our wedding were brutal on occasion with our work schedules. My amazing wife is incredible. She is a school teacher and part-time wedding photographer and is the most organised person I know. This led us to hiring our amazing weddings and events co-ordinator Roni Hyslop of All Wrapped Up who is in our opinion the Scottish Godmother of weddings. Her 20 odd years of events planning came in handy as the months leading up to the wedding went by without so much as a speed bump. Cannot recommend her services highly enough, especially if you have a heavily themed canvas wedding with a million details or any medium to ridiculous shindig if you've got stupidly busy lives like us.
Everyone loves to dress up on their wedding day. Everyone likes to have footwear wedding goals and it's a phenomenal way to express yourself.....
***DON'T NOT TREAT YOUR FEET***
We've all been at a wedding where the happy couple have ditched their formal footwear for a pair of Converse, right? It looks cool but bear in mind that it's also bloody comfy by comparison to a pair of shoes you're probably not even broken in properly before the wedding day itself. We cannot express what a good idea this is. I forgot and then had to deal with immensley painful heels and arches over a 3 day hangover in Venice. Not-fun! You'll be on your feet for up to 18 hours on the day of your wedding. So trainers, connies, flats - any of the above are a solid choice as your shift change footwear. Be freakin prepared! You never know when you'll have to try and beat Aunty Doris to the buffet or a Zombie to an exit/ingress.
£££DON'T DO WHAT YOU THINK OTHER PEOPLE WILL LIKE£££
Since this BIG DAY is all about you guys you really need to let the freak flag fly and paraphrasing Ol' Blue Eyes - do it your way! You can overload a wedding by buying every idea you've got on your pinterest boards but sometimes simpler is better. We initially looked at Castles all up and down Scotland from Edinburgh to Ackergill on the North Coast. This was a staple fantasy, mainly because I am obsessed with history and zombie apocalypse survivalism. If you're gonna get caught out on the day of your wedding, better it be mob-handed and in a heavily fortified defensible position with good line of site and obvious bottle-necks. Just saying! We soon realised that our surviving grandparents were ranging in ages from 74 up to 94 so we had to bring our celebration down to earth a wee bit. But funnily enough this had some extra added bonuses. No longer looking at 10-20k for a castle wedding of nearly 200 people we were able to spend budget on things like entertainment, candy floss and popcorn carts, musicians and the like. So when we found the beautiful Kinkell Byre just down the road from Katie's Grandad Jimmy we knew we were onto a winner. We threw in a BBQ and a hog roast and a whisky buffet for good measure and it was something that was simply quintessentially us. We even had room for a DIY home cinema playing a loop of all our favourite movies as a chill-out space away from the dance floor. Job done! Back of the net!
+++DON'T FORGET TO ORCHESTRATE+++
If you don't have an events planner or co-ordinator for your big day then set yourself timetable goals! Intrinsically this means being very strict with yourself on purchases and watching the hell out of your budget but also have milestones. If you're like us and were planning for 3+ years then you can kind of take it easy, certainly at first. But then we realised if we didn't start putting down at least the deposits and signing contracts that we would soon not be getting any of our first choice vendors. A lot of wedding specialists seem to agree that 15 months is about adequate to organise a medium to large scale wedding. So aim to be emailing or calling your vendors in stages - 12 months, 6 months and 10 days before hand to make sure everyone is on top of everything including yourselves. This gives you ample opportunity to inform vendors of an scheduling or format changes for the big day which is especially important for Caterers, Bands, Photgraphers and Celebrants. Even if this take the form of group chats on Facebook, Whatsapp etc this is a great way for vendors to communicate before the big day arrives especially if they've never worked together before.
%%%DO TAKE DECENT BREAKS%%%
Let's not forget that just plain old life can be stressful enough. When you're holding down full-time jobs and organising a wedding the extra strain on your free time can be a lot. So in all seriousness and in the words of Donna and Tom from Parks and Rec - TREAT YO-SELF!!! Try and get as many date nights in as you can but maybe plan a few weekends away. Katie and I took a few days out here and there to go to the spa which was amazing. When you're carrying the world on your shoulders there's nothing better than room service and a deep tissue massage - trust us!